BEING RIGHT IS MEANINGLESS

So many times, in our life, we find ourselves disagreeing, arguing, or just plain fighting with people that are very meaningful to us. We are then put in a position where we can argue or debate how we feel about something or we can just let it go. If we debate to convince the other, there is a good chance the other will be hurt by our arguments.  We will have to tear them down about their feelings relating to the argument, showing them, they are wrong.  The reality is “If we disagree, then if I am right, you MUST be wrong, and invalid in your thinking.”  There is a lot here.  It’s an intrinsic part of us that our ego needs to be right.  But I am realizing that it is not worth it to come out on top if the other is hurt.  I really never felt this way before.  I always thought I needed the world to see I am right.  To validate myself. 

Most times letting it go is the best choice. Just agree to disagree, and be comfortable with that.  If we feel good about ourselves and how we think then we know that it doesn’t really matter what the other person thinks, and we are just good with how we feel. Of course, this only works if the other person, the person that we love, isn’t upset or hurt. But what if we are hurt or upset? What if we feel misunderstood and since we love this person so much we feel we have to make our point in such a way so that they will understand us? Or maybe they are strangers, and it just irritates us to think that their perspective is different than ours.  (wrong) They’re in lies the predicament.  What to do?  What do we sacrifice?  My feelings or yours?

I’ve been comfortable lately with the fact that I don’t argue. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or bring doubt into their minds. And so, I just let it go. I take great pride in personally feeling that it’s OK if I’m not that understood. I feel good about myself and secure in knowing that even if we don’t see eye to eye, I’m very much OK.  I don’t need universal agreement or validation. We all see the world differently, from different vantage points.   This makes how we see it different.  We are all not the same. 

Therefore, being right is relative to the viewer, and therefore meaningless.